How to get the long-term relationship Fundamentals 101

How to get the long-term relationship Fundamentals 101

(The Long-Term Relationship – hence known as TLTR)

First of all lower your requirements on that Prince you are waiting for, second don’t even expect him to be a prince if he doesn’t have a castle, for fuck’s sake don’t expect him to be a Prince even if he accidentally has a castle!! Naaaa I’m just joking you know? :D Even though, it’s true ;)

Now I know you really want that good guy in your life, as mentioned above – the Prince. I am gonna try and keep it simple, starting with the most obvious ;)

Things that won’t help you get TLTR:

1. Making photos of yourself in clubs’ toilets, faking big lips.
2. Actually going to a surgeon to implant your lips, breasts surely won’t hurt your chances though ;P
3. Getting 2000 likes on your new photo of your old body by the same people
4. And since you are looking for your soul-mate, DON’T play an arrogant bitch all the time, you might just miss your Prince in your hurry to maintain your “ great status”
5. Don’t be too clingy, too romantic, too chatty either – it’s off-putting.
6. Withholding sex for months, actually there is no evidence that not having sex on a first date will end up in a more meaningful relationship. In my opinion it’s 50/50, it still depends on other things. Actually all girls that have tried to postpone having fun when they have actually wanted it, have hated, deleted, blanked after and apparently it is always the man’s fault. All girls that have done what it feels like, when it feels like it, are still good friends or in good relations, because we have realized like grown people, that it won’t really happen. It just doesn’t work like this – if you are annoying, stupid and too much of an egoist TLTR will just never happen ;)
7. Wasting years on years chasing one person that you think is the one. While this in most cases works for men, for women is just a tragedy. Men decide in just about 1-2 conversations if they are going to have TLTR with a girl or not. “If a man acts as if he doesn’t give a shit, most probably he really doesn’t give a shit!”. Just take it without bad feelings – he is out of your league ;)
8. Do not make him feel like you are using him to gain things like respect, popularity, confidence, friends, car, CLIENTS!!(never mind), money, although most rich men are cool with money ;) – or put in other words Respect
9. Don’t play “I am very hard to get”, most probably you are not worth that much effort. Although a little is very cool I admit ;)

Now for the most useful part of that article, that doesn’t even requires you to subscribe, please try to clear your mind of most prejudice and everyday problems.

Those are the things that will help you keep him:

1. Allow yourself more time for personal development, there are so many things you could learn to do and even be fun. Looks is not everything in the world, it’s like the see view on my villa, you just don’t look at it that often 2 weeks after you’ve moved in ;)
2. Try to be pretty without make up.
3. Give men what they want, we are like dogs, we go back to the person, who feeds us ;). Then we are satisfied and you could ask us for anything ;)
4. Have a goal in life, its especially important that it doesn’t conflict with his goal. And please don’t make it be “Achieving/finding Love”, love is such a small thing in the world, open your eyes, ask yourself about the future in 5,10,20 years.
5. Somehow, despite all grayness of life in Bulgaria, you must find a way to be positive about life. That is a long term investment that will pay off big in the future simply by helping you make better decisions and having more goodwill.
6. Help him when he needs and make him help you, so he feels needed.
7. At this point most people will say – learn to cook, but naa not rly ;) In the kitchen even if you can’t cook you can always make fun of yourself and still somehow have a great night together, but in the bed… you really need to know how to fuck… please learn it, and fyi blond hair doesn’t help in bed ;) nor breasts ;), unless you use them the Turkish style ;DD
8. Try to find even more and more common interests, don’t be satisfied with the starting ones. It’s natural that people change with time, so in this way after 2-3 years you will essentially become so alike it will be nearly impossible to separate ;)
9. In general be more open to the world, to new things, to unknowns. Don’t try to navigate the world into your parented rails, prepare to expand you rail network ;)

Finding the fine line between the drama and the statistics.

Finding the fine line between the drama and the statistics.

It’s long been said – “The death of one is a tragedy, the death of 20 000 is a statistic”.

Excuse my brash intro, but that has been an important problem for decades. There are people who argue that the bosses/politicians should be more involved in the single lives of people, while theoreticians argue that the macro scale is the important one for an efficient decision making. We have witnessed various public people vacillate to both extremes and as it is usual with all extremes - neither prosper. Therefore logically we should seek some trade-off ratio, where you are neither too remote from the real world, but still not affected by single case tragic emotions.

As of now we will refer to those extremes as left and right for simplicity. Admittedly it could be argued that right side really has a broad view, because those people have voluntarily depraved themselves from the larger part of the happening in the world, so they can focus on the aggregated figures. On the contrary though the left side is unarguably narrow-minded as their interests reach as far as their day to day problems and comparing them with others everyday life issues, in order to get peace of mind.

For me the ultimate picture of a left person is one who goes to work for money and home to sleep, watches soap opera TV to fill his empathy needs, usually his kids are his only friends, they listen to him and unnoticeably get inducted with similar mind set and problems. He or she usually finds relief in alcohol, preferably beer, doesn’t really care how the world works, continually becomes poorer and poorer as he spends more than his income and owes money to many people. The list could go on, but that should be vivid enough.

A person from the right side would usually live alone in his apartment in relative comfort; he will struggle for money, but will make ends meet. Those are usually men with long beards, old clothes, sociopaths – usually referred to as “know-it-alls”, who normal people avoid, due to their relentless babbling. They find joy in finding the “right” solutions, achieving mastery in a theoretical subject and learning things, usually with no purpose or intent of measurable benefit to anyone. They hate drama movies or books, cannot stand manual labour and could have overestimated self-esteem.

At this point maybe you expect to read the solution to the problem. Ohh it would have been wonderful, but unfortunately I am not certain where it is, but as an advice you can use: If you know one of those types of people, you better reconsider your relationship with him, weigh the pros and cons carefully and decide.

As long as the perfect balance goes, most people would say – “Go for the golden middle”, but not me. The perfect middle is never stable in the nature, it is hard to maintain and there are no evidence that it works well. If you ask about me, I have moved left and right on the line in the past several years, have been moving left lately, but as anyone who would write such and essay, I am still leaning to the right. There pros and cons about any position (but the extremes :D), which I might cover in a follow up, but my honest opinion is that the key is in the flexibility. If you have the experience of different ratios you could empathize with wider variety or people and thus face day to day issues accordingly. That expands you capabilities and gives you more freedom to pick your options, but then you become inconsistent and dependant on your own decisions, which are never guaranteed to be good.

Whatever you do there are pitfalls, life is so complex that a single fit-to-all solution could never be computed. It would be great, if that essay is not interpreted as a statement to the insignificance of personal choices, but as a catalyst for a discussion in attempt to close in on clearer perspective on the issue, so we could try and chose sanely for our better future.

The new investment grade asset.

 Some girls have a lot of money locked up in promiscuity futures. I will use the moment to plug myself and communicate that if some of them are in a hurry to liquidate some assets at a discount I can find the right buyers ;)

But generally speaking the “tables have been laid and the food has been served, but the cost of eating is too much for most to pay”. It is obvious, if you think about it, that the meaning of love has changed dramatically, but it has been changing with each historic age for millennia now. Everybody is talking about the unprecedented rate of technological progress, but alongside everything has sped up, ages change more rapidly, fashion trends, mission statements, wants and needs, but most crucially expectations. Fundamentally capitalism is the culprit. It creates competition among us and all the problems of our society are rooted there. To be fair evolution is a competitive system, very much like capitalism, we tried to influence it by forcing socialism, but nature brought us back to capitalism. Unfortunately capitalism allows for much faster gains and accumulation of resources than evolution, which points to a bad trend. If I dare estimate the rate of acceleration ever since capitalism rules the world, I’d argue that the rate is exponentially rising and despite the attempts of the very smart and vastly rich people to calm down the masses, until 2050 the system should overheat and collapse. Riots, wars, hunger and poverty will become the standard theoretical drawbacks of capitalism, but you know hunger doesn’t ask for theoretical solutions.

Our lives, income and comfort.

The long term perspective

Fortunately for you ;) - I have to start my point from far, far away.

What do we do with the annoying, complaining people?

Well, first of all we should try not to be one ;) It is tempting like the dark force, the one from Star Wars, not cosmology ;) It, by the way, is one of my favorite subjects unlike Star Wars, but like English comedy which is also on queue for tonight.

Let me say two words about English comedy before we go on though ;) England has developed a very strong market for comedy, it has all hallmarks of a real industry there and this brings high fees for the comedians and thus motivates many people to compete to be the best. The English comedians have achieved such high level of wit and sharp thinking that they have less scripted comedy shows than live on the spot jokes shows. The quote that inspired this piece of text is from one of the veterans and staple figures of English comedy – Stephan Fry, he has also been a vivid science nerd among his colleagues. He has made television for more than 30 years now and has travelled to the most exotic places to find interesting and funny animals and stories.

His latest show is called Quite Interesting and already has 8 seasons on BBC2, the plot of the show is 2 teams of 3 comedians compete who can think of the funniest jokes about super surprising facts about our world, that nobody has thought of.

I sincerely recommend it for people who want to get surprised, laugh a lot and last but not least learn useless information ;)

As I am sure this already drew you far away from the main topic, the topic was the negative minded and frowny people. I bet everybody has been forced to at least work with an elderly person, who sees the world gray and feels everything new/modern as a threat to his well-being.

“I cannot tell you the overmastering hatred I feel,

waves of disgust when there is that frowny woman on the bicycle

who looks at you as if you are the symbol of all capitalism

and meat eating and penis owning . You know you are the

enemy of the people , you are the enemy of the planet,

you are globalization, you are capitalism with a huge cigar,

just because you might have slightly blown her off course

on her blasted Bison.” Stephen Fry(2003, interview)

This is a quote of a live and unscripted show, which he said with exceptional flare, that really grabbed my heart. As I am sure you know I am practicality-driven person and the reasoning behind this behavior is to a front to all of us who push the world forward for the best of mankind ;)

Just to make myself clear – I respect deeply elder people, who adapt to the new technologies and are able to rival most of the lazy ass kids of the new generation, but this quote is for all those, who are lazy to catch up with the news and always dream about the old days, when they claim everything was better. I admit life seems it could have been easier back then, but that is not really the point. The point is development and progress is on the way, the quality of life is constantly raising and we could never bring back the old times even if everybody wanted. I believe the current progress is for the better and should be accelerated, not hindered.

We are discovering and inventing new technologies daily, the development in every field of science and manufacturing eventually brings our living costs down even if we don’t realize it. Each and every year the number of patents filed in the world reaches a new high and the patents violated reaches new record levels in China ;) My biggest hopes are for a breakthrough in the field of energy generation and not energy savings, as we are currently in the energy savings era, which I really find a bit misguided, but still we learn from it and it achieves some kind of efficiency ;) Just imagine if the cost of energy drops by only 30%, it will benefit every industry from mining, refining, smelting, manufacturing, logistics, storage, retailing and usage, thus will roughly decrease our overall costs by about 10-15%, which you can spend on something else, and the target of the new energy generation technologies like fusion for example is to lower the energy price by 200-300%. Such a change will not only lower overall running and product costs, but will also spur development of new bigger, cooler and more powerful gadgets that are just not economically feasible at the moment for everyone. My most painful issue is the slow transport of today and I cannot wait for the moment in future that the masses of people will be able to afford a thousand mile/hour train journey or 3-4 times super-sonic flights. As a keen economist I cannot see people’s income rising dramatically, but I can see technological progress making luxury products and services available to the masses.

Conclusion:

Respect particle physics.

Respect theoretical physics.

Respect cosmology.

Respect genius of innovation like Steve Jobs(R.I.P Steave(1958-2011))

Respect people who have built MNCs and can afford to spend billions on R&D.

Respect China for its cheap labor ;D

The argument within myself

The argument within myself.

I can and usually have two conflicting ideas at the same time, its hard to pick sides when on the one side you disagree with the methods and on the other you disagree on moral grounds.  Unfortunately there's no place for the different, either you conform or burn. The world likes determined people and  I agree they succeed more, but I still can't reach to a conclusion on what's best for the efficiency of decision making and progress. Maybe those ideas are futile and evolution(as in most observed cases) has got it right again.